Almost a year into my current long-term relationship, my boyfriend decided to study abroad for most of the summer. We had constructed a positive relationship and although we were both excited for his new adventure, I was sad to see him gone for so long. Without thinking about it, I stopped shaving my legs. As I was walking on Eastern Parkway to work one morning, I could feel my leg hairs blowing in the wind. It was then that I realized it had been about a month since I shaved, and how wonderful that sensation felt. I started to ask myself why I even shaved in the first place, and had no good answer. Honestly, I hate shaving and have incredibly sensitive skin, so special razors, creams, and lotions were a necessity that become quite expensive.
My boyfriend and I kept in good contact and he did not seem phased at all when I told him. We are both body positive and accepting of natural body characteristics, like hair, so I assumed he would not care. And if he did, it would be hypocritical because he is literally covered from head to toe in hair. Which I find quite attractive, by the way. When he returned to New York City and we were intimate again, he still did not care.
It was about a year later when I finally stopped shaving my armpits. Antiperspirants do not work on me and I had a non-cancerous lump removed from my breast when I was a teenager, so I stopped using the products years ago. The only reason my armpits were kept smooth was because I thought it made me sweat less. On a whim, I started growing my pit hair out again to see what would happen. It turns out, it looks pretty badass and I sweat about the same amount. Again, with this new hair style, my boyfriend did not mind. He seemed to enjoy it.
While I changed the larger hair regions of my body, the hair on my head and my pubic hair style stayed the same. My head of hair is curly and fierce, so it is easier to keep it long and let it do it’s thing. The public hair surrounding my cunt is kept well trimmed to make penetration more comfortable. Bushy and cushiony, but at a not-to-long-length to prevent pulling. I absolutely hate when any of my hair is pulled so I keep all of it at particular lengths. This pubic hairstyle has never been a problem for my current or past partners and in fact has been very well accepted. I heard the same comment from various men, stating that they prefer women to have more pubic hair on their cunts. Women, on the other hand, are usually weirded out by this choice.
Negative criticism regarding my hairstyles, has come from mostly women. Surprisingly, when men are awkward about seeing, usually my armpit hair first, they just stare and do not say much. Women, on the other hand, have made unhygienic comments or disgusted faces. This surprised me into thinking that maybe women are more brainwashed than men about societal standards for body hair grooming.
My stance has always been to do what you want with your body, as long as you are happy with it and not just attempting to please someone else. It is your body and you should be happy living in it, hairless or not.
— Sweet D